Learning to say “no”

Daily writing prompt

How often do you say “no” to things that would interfere with your goals?

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This is a tough one for me. To put it bluntly I don’t say “no” nearly enough. In many ways this has been beneficial. All through high school, college and when I started my newspaper career, I subscribed to the “say yes to everything” mantra. This impulsive mindset led to many unforgettable adventures and formed countless friendships, many that are lifelong. It’s brought many highs and some embarrassing lows, but it’s all been worth it.

My priorities have shifted and my lifestyle is a steep contrast from these wild years, but I still try to do more than what’s possible. It’s the dreamer and people-pleaser in me. I overcommit and then don’t prioritize work that can only be done in solitude (primarily writing from the soul). This is because I have to continue to work on the art of saying “no.” It’s not easy, but it can be – and has to be – done. No one else understands your priorities like you. And don’t worry about disappointing people. They will understand. You need your time. We all do. So be honest about it, and do your best not to take on too much. I’m going to be intentional about that, just as I’ve tried to be ever since the pandemic – when I hit the reset button. Sometimes you’ve got to do that, and start fresh. Ultimately, though, it should never come to that. Stay grounded and be consistent with boundaries. And when you know you have to say “no,” say “no.” Stay on your path, and stay committed to your goals. It takes conviction and hard work, work that is only possible if you make time. And only you can make that happen.